“Will you marry me?” What my bride taught me about sales and marketing.
Sunday, July 26th, 2009Most traditional marketers use broadcast messages to get people to listen, often these messages are designed to make the company look smart, they think their “cause” can create an affect that stimulates the buyer to react to their messages. Sales takes those generic messages to the street, they are the talkers, they meet customers on their terms and they engage in conversations that tie “corporate speak” to their client’s needs. Good sales people ask questions that draw out their wants and needs. In other words they engage in conversations to create relationships.
There is nothing new here; people have been entering relationships for ions yet we have lost our way. Lets look at marriage, the legal union between two people, the ultimate relationship. Human relationships are built on courting, certainty and commitment and trust.
Courting: the fist date.
A good relationship is a two way street. When I met Jane, my wife, we spent getting time to know each other. Our discussions revolved around our wants, our needs, our dreams and our fears. We talked about our successes and failures. We had a two- way discussion about our beliefs.
Certainty: The engagement.
It was part of a process to understand that Jane was the one for me; we talked and talked and talked, we interacted with friends and family. It took time for us to discover the others dreams, wants and needs. When I knew Jane was the one for me- I popped the question, she said yes.
Commitment: The marriage ceremony.
Growing up Irish-Catholic, marriage was considered sacred. That said, Jane was just plain fun! She was smart and she was pretty. She knew my idiosyncrasies, my strengths and weaknesses. She accepted them. On May 30, 1986 we got married.
Bliss: Trust.
In early 2007, as my 3rd child was entering college, Jane and I had a discussion, I told her that I wanted to start a company. The risks were huge, 3 kids in college, my youngest still in high school. The economy had early indications of issues. I add this to talk about trust. Jane trusted me, she trusted my work ethic, and Jane trusted my abilities. There was no hesitation. She kissed me and said go!
Everybody knows this process, it’s natural, it’s simple. Don’t make it more difficult then it really is.
What did getting married teach you about sales, marketing and PR. Leave a comment below. The best answer will win a autographed copy of David Meerman Scott’s “New Rules of Marketing and PR”.

